Love (Bond or Bondage?)

“Marriage is a choice. God does not choose for you, love does not make marriage work, so don’t get married because of love. Instead, acquire the knowledge understanding you need. Love doesn’t guarantee marriage, understanding does.”

– Myles Munroe

Love, if expressed in a positive way creates a bond. But if expressed in a negative way, leads to bondage. Join our panelists as they share their perspectives on what it takes to express love in a healthy way. Listen below, or click here to download.

 

 

Summary

Questions for Panelists:

1. What can you do when your emotions are played?
Ans;
Maturity helps your emotion. If you cannot control your emotion, feelings and anger,. you are not ready for marriage.

2. How can you build maturity?
Ans;
You need the spirit of gentleness and meekness in Christ. Learn the life of Jesus it will help you to manage your temperaments and weakness.

3. How can you analyze a person you like from afar before getting close to him or her?
Ans;
Get to know who his/her friends are, what he/she likes, what he/she does and more. However, how you analyze depends on your personality. So don’t try to do it like anyone else.

4. Is it true that if you are not in a bible believing Christian, without a good relationship with God, you shouldn’t get married?
Ans;
In every marriage, you need God. Though your marriage might work but you may not enjoy it as much as you would when you put God first in your marriage.

5. As a single lady, what has helped you to play safe (directed to Dr. Mekeat)?
Ans;
Know yourself. If you know yourself, you will be able to know that guy well.
Also know what you want as a lady, know your purpose. Note that not all guys that come to church and are good looking are really Christ-like. Compare values.

6. Is it good to play hard to get when a man proposes to marry you?
Ans;
You already know what you want so there’s no need to play hard to get, except you don’t want that person.

 

Gathering of Thoughts by Pastor Peter Oyesiku

Put God first in your marriage, and put knowledge before love. Genesis 24 vs 19-21

As singles, take your time, don’t jump to conclusions, watch from afar carefully until you are satisfied with what you see.